To You, The Tired Mom, The Exhausted Dad

To You, The Tired Mom, Dad - A must read on This Parenting Thing!

 

You don’t really know when it was that you slept 8 hours in a row. You don’t even know when was the last time you slept in.

You avoid mirrors so not to cross your haggard look, your messy hair, and the engraved rings under your eyes,

You get your energy from coffees and your secret stash of sweet treats.

You’re tired. Very tired.

(You would even say exhausted, but you keep a little to yourself in public, you know, to stay optimistic and keep going.)

And the worst is that even if you work hard, it seems like you’re never finished. Your To-Do List grows day by day, almost to the other side of the world.

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It’s you, the tired mom, the tired dad, or someone you know well.

It’s the mom in early pregnancy, green of a morning sickness that never ends.

Or the parent of a new baby who fantasizes on the mirage of a full night of sleep.

It’s the parent of little ones full of life.

The parent with a deployed partner, or a partner working too many hours a week, separated, absent, or not really involved.

The parent who fought many battles and made many sacrifices. Who has the stretch marks, the c-section scar, or his baby’s latest bitemarks to prove it.

It’s also the parent on his knees, depressed.

You did not see it coming, the heavy tiredness. Even if you had fought it with a frying pan, it almost defeated you in advance because you have too much to do.

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But we see you, dear. We think that you’re great and beautiful. The difficulties you’ve encountered or overcome have brought out the best version of you. You’re even better now it seems, in the same way that shattered Japanese cups repaired with gold are made wonderful.

We see you’re tired, and we’d like to help you. Please try these tips we offer as friends.

Give yourself some slack. Your family can eat healthy even if it’s sandwiches or frozen meals.

Ask for help, and accept the lifeline. Save yourself before helping everyone. Ask your own parents to babysit your precious a couple of hours a week to have time to breathe, for example.

Destroy what you no longer need in your life. Mourn a Spick and Span house and get rid of hundred of toys while keeping the favorites, to make yourself happy too because you always have to pick up everything. Or mourn your career for a while, to have a more relaxing life.

Sleep, beautiful. If necessary take naps, cosleep, and go to bed at the same time that your little one.

Above all, remember this thought every day, always, when you fall like a one-ton pile of clothes on your pillow:

You’re doing an awesome job.
You’re important.
And you’re loved.

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Marie-Eve Boudreault is a mom of 4 awesome kids and the founder of This Parenting Thing. Putting to good use her bachelor's degree in sociology and her passion about all-things parenting, she is a parenting blogger since 2008 and a caring parenting coach. She's actually working on the ultimate parenting course. Contact
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2 comments
unschoolingschaffs - 6 months ago

Thank you so much! I am mom to a 5 year old, almost 3 year old, and 6 month old. I just can’t do it all. The house is messier, meals are simpler, toys don’t always get picked up, laundry sits unfolded, I co sleep and go to bed with the kids most days. My husband and I know these years are the most precious and some of the most difficult!

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    Marie-Eve Boudreault - 6 months ago

    Thanks for sharing! And happy to meet a fellow unschooling mom. It does get “easier” when they grow up, but as you said, those first years are soooo precious. Take care!

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